Asking A Girl Out – And Getting Her To Say Yes

EDITOR’S NOTE: Contribution by James W., user of SonicSeduction since 2012. If you have any questions regarding this article, or just want to get in touch, leave a message at the end of this article in the blog comment section.

To some guys, asking a girl out comes completely naturally. However, this sometimes depends on the girl as well. Because of this, you might come across certain situations where you find it hard to ask out a girl, no matter how much of a Casanova you might. This might happen before you discover SonicSeduction when you’re having problems with women. πŸ˜‰

Some guys like to use a technique like Fractionation to seal the deal immediately, but I have found that to be slightly overkill! I'd use Fractionation much later when I need a more "powerful" solution...
Some guys like to use a technique like Fractionation to seal the deal immediately, but I have found that to be slightly overkill! I’d use Fractionation much later when I need a more “powerful” solution…

I’ve been using techniques inside Derek Rake’s SonicSeduction for over a year now, and this is what I learned.

What you need to remember is that every guy can ask any girl out on a date. You can either blurt it out randomly, ask it in a note, or just do it naturally. There are tricks on how to get a girl to say yes, though, and this is how SonicSeduction helped me. Naturally, that yes won’t always be guaranteed, but how you ask a girl out can make a huge difference in the long run.

Prepping Yourself Up

For starters, you need to know that you will never succeed at getting yourself a date, if you aren’t sure about what you are doing in the first place.

Because of this, if there is anything that you absolutely must know in this department, it is that you have to ask girls out confidently. And this is a crucial step that you must take in order to attract women successfully.

Many of my SonicSeduction compatriots jump immediately into using a fairly “advanced” technique such as Fractionation (go to if you want to learn more about this trick) but I do think that we could all do well with something more foundational in nature.

After all, using something as powerful as Fractionation could well be overkill when you only want to ask a woman out – not bed her immediately!

In other words, be decisive when you ask a girl out, especially if it is the first time you are approaching her for a date. Having said that, you should make sure that you don’t sound too aggressive, either; otherwise, you might just scare her off completely.

Going With The Flow, Or Overcoming Analysis Paralysis

Another thing you need to keep in mind is not to plan things out too much. This may seem hard to do, but planning out how you ask a girl on a date too much will ruin the evolution of your conversation altogether.

What if she says something that you didn’t expect her to say? What if she asks you something that you weren’t anticipating? This is why you have to go with the flow as much as possible when it comes to this.

nice-looking-womanOf course, there are some things that you can plan out beforehand, though. For instance, it would be smart to decide where you plan on taking the girl out on a date if she agrees to it. In fact, at the very least, you should have some ideas ready for this.

Girls happen to hate hearing guys say they don’t know where they want to go because they expect guys to take the lead.

For me, I go through the Approach Module inside SonicSeduction (see details at and then prep myself up using the Brainwave Entrainment module. It’s like confidence in a bottle. :)

And to make sure you do this flawlessly, try to find out as much about her as possible in advance.

Is she the sporty type? Then plan out an adventurous date. Is she more of a stay-at-home type? Then ask her out on a movie date. If you have no idea how to find out her personality traits because you just saw her from across the bar, then take a look at her clothes and try to get subtle hints from there.

Simple Grooming Works

Other things that you need to plan out ahead of time would include how you look and present yourself. Pick out a good perfume, for example, and make sure you look your best. Also, don’t forget to brush, gargle and floss. Who knows? She might want to kiss you good night when the date is over.girl-shadow

Another tip on how to ask a girl out would be to stay calm and collected while you do so. Although there are some girls out there who find nervousness flattering, guys usually succeed in this department more when they are relaxed and laid-back. Again, the Brainwave Entrainment modules inside SonicSeduction helped me heaps.

So, try your best to seem at ease whenever you ask a girl out.

Make small conversation, and laugh and smile whenever it is appropriate to do so. Make sure you listen to her when she talks, as well, and then say something simple like, “We should go out sometime.” Make sure you look into her eyes and smile as you say this.

Also, do not expect a positive response. Just be ready for anything that she might throw your way and you will be able to handle it, no matter what the outcome might be in the end. This is just a small sampler of what’s inside the Rapport Module inside SonicSeduction – refer to it for more ideas.

Nifty First Date Ideas

Now, it goes without saying that there are a ton of different things that you could do on your date if she agrees to go out with you.

No matter what kind of girl she might be, though, it would be best to keep things relaxed and simply. Your ultimate goal here should be to get to know her better, after all.

STOP THINKING ABOUT BEDDING HER AT THIS POINT. So, whether you watch a movie, grab some coffee or go bowling with your friends, just make sure she has fun. That way, she will want to see you again in the future. Remember: you will have plenty more time to spend alone time together if she grants you another date after this one.

Pitfalls You Must Know And Avoid!

A lot of guys seem to think that they have to shower girls with attention in order to get them to reciprocate their attraction. Unfortunately, this isn’t true.

You see, girls love guys who have their own lives aside from them. Who would want to date somebody who has nothing going for them but their girlfriends? Think about this. This is why you have to keep your contact with her to a minimum.

Although it is alright to send her a few text messages every day to show her that she is on your mind, you shouldn’t come off as desperate by texting her and calling her too much.

Texting is a good way to manage your availability and build rapport at the same time

It shouldn’t be forgotten that dating websites are quite popular in today’s day and age.

So, if you are trying to get a date online, then there is one tip that you will need to remember here: be honest, no matter what. DO NOT HEAR THE USUAL DATING GURU B.S. ABOUT FAKING YOUR PROFILE.

Don’t use old pictures of you, for example. Girls don’t want to be shocked by unexpected surprises on the day that they meet the guys that they were talking to online.

Also, whenever you send a girl a message online, make sure you keep it short and straight to the point. Your goal here should be to keep a conversation going with a girl that you are interested in, not to send her a list of different reasons why she should go out with you – remember that.

These are just basic online dating techniques of course – for a more authoritative treatment of the subject, check out Derek Rake’s Online Dating Playbook.

And if you’re new to SonicSeduction techniques, then you’re possibly missing out on what’s deemed to be the latest, most cutting edge dating techniques ever to be used in the modern world.

Click on this link below and you’ll get to see a video on Fractionation – the original “mind hack” technique that has helped tens of thousands of SonicSeduction devotees around the world to improve their dating lives.


How To Use Fractionation To Seduce Women (Free Video)

Β And if you are wondering if this works on your ex, then answer is a resounding YES.

Good luck!


  1. daryn says

    hi im daryn from IA I want to ask a girl out named lilly shes awesome but im in middle school so im new to this I have her dad as a teacher next year so that helps (NOT). im flipping out I need help a lot of help so if you could get back to me plz

    from daryn

  2. Gee says

    Be confident women love this also practice on girls you dont like and finally learn to take rejection. “Those who learn to take rejection never get rejected”.

    • Josh says

      Do not be too upfront with her! Sometimes it takes a while. Try to get a friendship going before you get into dating. Remember,always stay cool,calm,and collected. Good luck!!

  3. Dennis says

    I was always attracted to the girl next door and decided to use some of your techniques and ask her out on a date. It didn’t go as well as I had hoped for and she ended up telling my wife when she got home from work. Girls are unpredictable, aren’t they? πŸ˜‰

  4. Josh Gonzalez says

    Hi my name is Josh. I really like this girl and I am always nervous around her and I am always tongue twisted….what should I do?? Also I got rejected by other girls and always feel like she will do the same.

    • Kayla says


      Just be honest and up front with her if you like her then tell her. Even if other girls rejected you that doesn’t mean you are a bad guy. It just means that they are not for you and that might be a good thing too.

      You haven’t found the right girl, and so don’t worry about getting rejected. Just follow your heart and ask the girl you really care for. I hope this helps!

    • Brady says

      Dude, listen. If you don’t ask her then you will never know if she will really say yes or no. Go for it, man!

  5. Lebro says

    Hey thanks for these tips! I’m that guy who’s a total flirt but when it comes to actually asking her out I get scared and chicken out. I’m done being that guy (well, the second part, anyway)! I’m sure these tips will help. Thanks.

  6. says

    I like a girl and I liked her for a long time her name is Harley she is really pretty.but I don’t know what she will say if I ask her out and every time I look at her she is always looking at me and I smile and she always smiles right back last year she used to sit behind me in math class and I would look at her and she would smile and I was so shy and me being a dumass didn’t know what to do.

  7. brendan says

    Dayrn, all you have to do is get a conversationgoing with her and get her to loosen up. Then ask her if she would want to go see a movie this weekend or go to a game. Don’t worry about having her dad next year. If your a good kid he won’t have any problem with you. You might even be one of his new favorites.

  8. Aidan says

    Good luck Daryn I like this girl too but I don’t know what to say were good friends but this past week I have tried pushing myself to say it but in the end YouOnlyLiveOnce so go for it and also I will ask her out

  9. Triston says

    Im Triston and I want to ask a girl out. Her name is Jessa, the thing is any time I ask someone out all my friends make fun of me and I don’t want any one to know Im also embarrassed to say it and even if I worked up the nerve I don’t know how to ask.

  10. black momba says

    I banged this bitch last night she had fatest ass I ebver seen in my life that shit was gooooooooooooooooooooooooood

  11. Alex says

    So there’s this girl i like her name is Jada but I’m not sure how to ask her out. I’m not even sure if she knows i exist lol. Anyway if u can plz get back to me

  12. Jeremy says

    I really like this girl at my school. She is in a few of my classes and we work together in class a lot. We get along well, but when I try to talk to her about stuff other than school, I get super nervous, any tips?

  13. kate says

    Im a girl, but I like a girl. (No judging, please) and idk if she’s straight or gay, and I really like her. Im not sure how to find out or how to ask her out. Anyone please help?

  14. jimmy says

    It’s really helpful. If only I had read this before my first date. But I’ll try again. Thank you so much.

  15. says

    (Some) women make me sick. “why don’t guys ask girls out?”. Guys can never ask girls out for these reasons; 1. feminism 2. it’s not the girl’s business if a third party chooses not to ask her out 3. fear of rejection; asking girls out, leads no where in the end. it is a waste of time

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